Wow, time has flown and I can’t believe that I am done with
the semester. I have really enjoyed taking
the class of Family Relations 160 and I have learned some new things in this
class. What I have appreciated most
about this class is that it made me think of issues in different perspectives
and also ask myself how Heavenly Father views family. I have learned many new things that I can apply
to my life so that I can better my future family.
These are the top three things that I have learned that has
really made me think and improved my perspective. 1) Research has been done about same sex
attractions. It has been found that
people aren’t born with a "gay" gene and that homosexuality isn't
genetic. People consider themselves gay
by factors that happened to them throughout their life. The factors can be if they were wounded by
abuse, bullying, not having a father figure, having an over protective mother,
didn't have touch or feel loved, or (and) viewed pornography. It is important to realize that people become
gay can be by choice or things that they have experienced. A lot of time gay or
lesbian people say that they are born that way and they can't change. This is not true because people can
change. Heavenly Father can help you
change and become a better person no matter what you do in life. It is important to be close to your family
and get help by asking people you are comfortable talking to. God loves all his children and I believe that
family is one of the key points in raising his children. Marriage is ordained of God between husband
and wife and the reason people get married should be because they love each
other and they can raise children to be righteous children because everyone is
a child of God. The ways of the world
may be changing but Gods laws are never changing.
2. Transition into marriage can be the hardest part for some
families. Couples need to learn how to
share living space, coordinate life styles and plans, and getting along. Good
marriages adjust by communicating, dividing up money (sharing money), and
spending time together. Each couple is
different so they will need to plan according to each other’s needs. People have tendencies to act a certain way
according to how they were raised and transition those understandings into
their marriage. People have unrealistic
expectations of marriage, but it is still work that you have to put into to
make it work out. To make realistic
expectations couples need to talk about their “marriage contract” before they
get married. The contract should discuss
certain issues like how many kids do you want, how will we solve problems, how
are we going to communicate, what roles are we going to have… and more questions.
3. Parenting is a huge responsibility and blessing in
families. Some people don’t want kids
because they think they cost too much, too much responsibility, or other
reasons. Being a parent can be the most
rewarding thing and I think that it is an amazing opportunity that we have to
learn and grow as becoming a parent. When parenting there are better ways to go
about certain situations. It is good to
let a child have choices. If they make a
mistake they can choose what their consequence is, within your boundaries. Another was of parenting is to use I
statements to let a child to know that what they are doing makes you feel a
certain way and how they could help. It
is important to be positive while teaching because it will work out better and
the child will be more understanding.
You also can’t be a push over so have polite requests, use I-statements
and be firm.
Our Families really do have an effect on others and on
society. What we learn from our previous
families will usually transition to our new marriage so it is important to
learn and bring good qualities into your marriage. I think that each individual has an impact on
the family and it is a team effort.
Families can be a safe place for us where we can learn and grow. Heavenly Father sent us in families because He
loves us and he wants us to feel loved and learn from good parents. I know that marriage is between man and a
woman and that even if man’s laws change, Gods laws will always be the same and
I need to follow God’s law. I’m grateful
for the family that I have where I can learn to become better and more like
thee.